I think a kid at nursery is being abused, but nursery dont seem to want to know. ?

-My daughter complains this other kid wants to play a game shes been taught that involves touching private parts. My daughter doesnt want to play but this girl wont stop touching her! Nursery say its not possible as the kids are watched constantly. They set up a meeting which no staff showed up for because they had a staff meeting at the same time and cant meet with me again till after half term, 2 weeks from now. They dont seem to be taking it seriously. Number 1 my kid is being bullied, 2 it seems to be sexual (nursery say it cant be considered sexual between such young kids) 3 I'm concerned the other kid has been taught a game involving touching private parts! They seem to think I'm being silly and interfering. What do you thunk? I'm not letting my kid go back until its sorted.You have a responsibility to report your suspicions to the appropriate authority in your country. In the US, there are agencies that ANYONE can call and report such a suspicion to and the child's family will be investigated. It is done in a respectful but thorough manner, does not necessarily involve the reporter and is very effective. If you're not sure how to make such a report, call your local law enforcement agency and ask what to do.
Contact your local social service team and inform them that you have concerns about possible child abuse. They are obliged to investigate.



You are not required to give any of your details when doing this - it can be a totally anonymous process.



If you have concerns then please do it as soon as you read this - what harm can it do? Think about what harm might be happening right now if you don't.
Report it to the police and find another day care for your child.
First of all, I'd remove her from the class/nursery as soon as possible. While you can't put blame on the other child for what they've possibly been exposed to, your daughter (and the other children in the class, for that matter) shouldn't have to deal with being in an unsafe and probably traumatizing situation every time she goes to school. Don't leave it up to this nursery to take care of the situation because they're obviously turning a blind eye to it. Yes, young children are curious about their own and others' bodies on a basic level but what you're describing is much different. While it's highly unlikely the child is even able to comprehend that what she's doing or what's being done to her, let alone understanding the sexual context, she's clearly acting out something she has experienced or witnessed at home. Honestly, if the nursery is being so casual about a very possible child abuse situation, they as a childcare facility should be investigated for the sake of the children who go there. They are OBLIGATED to report things like this and the fact that they're not dealing with it promptly is worrying. I don't know what the process is like where you are but I would imagine it's not incredibly different than the US...a social services agency would seem to be the best route. It's pretty likely that they can point you in the right direction or even give you contact information. Even your local police should be able to help you with such a situation.



Best of luck. I'm sorry your child and you have to go through something like that.
Find another daycare and report this one to child protective services. I don't think the police would do much, except that they might be able to point you towards the right department to report. When you've filed the report, send a copy to the daycare, just to let them know that you've taken the matter seriously even if they don't. I don't want to worry you, but the agency will probably want to interview your daughter. They should be able to do this in a non-threatening way. If your daughter does go back she needs to be told to tell the teacher if another kids bothers her.
You don't say how old these children are, but I guess they must be under five years.

If you are in the UK all you have to do (and must do) is inform your Health Visitor citing the name of the child doing the behaviour. In any other developed country then inform Social Services. The child doing the behaviour is the child who is potentially (until proven) most at risk - Because you have made staff aware of the issue and while in Nursery the children are being supervised.

If you consider your child the victim in this situation why is she being punished by being kept away from Nursery and her other friends.