-my son will turn 3 on 16 feb 2011. as a 8 month old baby he used to say "ma" and a few other words. till 18 months he was progreesing with his age group but then suddenly fell behind. now except for a few words, he doesnt say any sentences, communicates through pointing mostly. he's otherwise very smart, can identify more than 10 colours, knows more than 10 shapes, knows 1-12, A-G and can identify around 50 animals easily. he used to be very fond of children and enjoyed their company, but recently we've put him in pre-school to encourage his socialising with children, but there he seems to be avoiding mingling with the other kids. he's the only one in the class who doesnt speak. we've consulted neurologists, therapists and child specialists and they all dismissed the idea of him being autistic. he's very fond of books and enjoys drawing and watching baby einstein and barney. he follows instructions, reacts to emotions and appears to be ahead of the other children except when it comes to talking. his jaw, throat and tongue have been tested too and there seems to be no problem. we have been practising some speech exercises at home, suggested by the therapist for the last 3 1/2 months but there has been very little improvement. he stops at the first syllable for most words like for elephant he says "aal" but however says "bubble" and "turtle" quite clearly. a few days back he said "owl" 2/3 times for the first time but never repeated it later. he has a 14 months old sibling whom he adores, is never jealous of and very possessive about. at school his teacher said he requires "extra" attention. he's very attached to me and we dont socialise too much. i'm a stay home mom so he's also getting my 100%. i dont know where i went wrong! i feel hopeless now and feel frustrated with all the "trying". i wasnt initially concerned till he was 2 1/2 years. sometimes i lose patience and scream for the most negligible reason. i feel like i'm in a dark hole. please help!!MAYBE he need to learn how to speak. Also if you want him to talk you need to teach them.
Maybe she doesen't want to talk yet! :)
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First of all you should not feel that you have done anything wrong but if you are losing patience you need to address that. It will not help your son for you to feel guilty about anything. In fact, he may be picking up on it and that could be furthering the problem. So just relax. It sounds like he can talk , he is smart and you have taken him to make sure there is nothing causing the delay so you have done a good thing there, you should be happy with yourself for seeing the situation and following through with that. But now you know that there is nothing causing the speech delay so just relax. He will start to talk when he is ready. My grand daughter is 4 and only talks when she has something to say but she can talk and things are clear just as they are with your son. Her parents sent her to school and she fell backwards with talking. They took her out of school and are playing games and stimulating her in different ways, now she is picking back up and talking again. There is something called being a " selective mute" . This term means just what is says, they select when to talk and when not to talk, but they can talk , there is nothing wrong with them. You have proven this by taking him to doctors and nothing is wrong. I am not a medical doctor, nurse, teacher or anything like that. I just know what I have seen with my son and my granddaughter. The best thing you could do for him is to just relax, let him be himself without the pressure of having to talk. I play games with my little granddaughter like whispering. That way she feels no pressure to perform. To talk out loud means that people will listen to her and that puts "pressure" on her and the more pressure, the less talking she will do. That is why I say relax, enjoy playing games with him that are non performing type games. Where he will learn and hear but lets him feel he has the say if he talks or not. Make sounds when you play cars with him and he will follow along with you, playing games, that is the key. Enjoy your time with him while he is still young without the pressure to perform.
My son didn't talk well until he was over 3 and he needed speech therapy. He's now a university graduate with a good job, so there's hope. The main thing you need to do first is get his hearing checked. It turned out my son had to have tubes in his ears, and later tonsils and adenoids out. (Stressful at the time, but all part of life) One way you can see if he might have a hearing problem is to say something quietly while his back is turned and see if he responds. Also, notice if he avoids crunchy foods
because chewing those is uncomfortably loud for hearing impaired children. If the hearing is OK, then he needs to be made to ask for things. My son used to point or even mime what he wanted,
so it's important to be firm. "I don't understand. You have to tell me." Also, little rewards, like
stickers, could be given for speech.
not to scare you at all but it is a possibilty, my boss just went thru this. it's a disfuntion with the skull...it grew to fast at birth and hardend before it was suppose to. he was barely talking trying to make words but it didn't work. after the surgery he was speaking in full sentances...idk just another option....
First of all, it is important not to blame yourself, speech is developmental and your son may just not be ready to speak. Also, try not to lose your patience as this may cause your son to withdraw. It is important to continue to monitor his progress. Your son sounds very intelligent. If his speech delay continue, you might want to consult with other specialists. You could also see if there's a program for preschoolers in your area that includes children with language delays.
Do you know what he wants and get it with a point? Instead of having him ask for it?
He will grow into preschool. He is attached to you and it is his first experience away from you. It takes time. If you have had him tested, then let things happen naturally. If he wants something, have him say it before giving it to him, and not a clear word, but an attempt. Continue to do it, and he'll get the hang of it. Read lots of stories, and ask him what he wants and name everything he wants. If he wants milk, get out the milk and tell him MILK then before you hand it to him ask him to say Milk. It is simple but tends to work.
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